The right question to ask when someone is identifying as bisexual, or “questioning” their sexual identity, is whether or not they are bisexual, or just looking for a partner. If they are truly bisexual then the best strategy would be to just get out there and explore all the possible options that are available to them. If you don’t yet know what bisexual means, or what some of the terms mean, below you will find a list of some of the common terms used in the bisexual community:
The question to ask is; “Are you gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, or another?”
The answer will depend on the individual. Be honest with yourself; if it feels wrong to you, then it probably does. You might have been calling yourself bisexual all your life but in reality, it might be not quite accurate.
Take this time to learn about what it means to be gay, lesbian, bisexual, or another. When you are comfortable with yourself and have a clearer understanding of your sexual orientation, then you can make a more informed decision when considering that kind of relationship to enter into.
The best way to begin to define your sexual orientation is to get out and meet other people who are a part of the same group as you. Meet up with people of a similar gender, and discuss your sexuality with each other.
Remember that most people experience same-sex attraction in their lives, and never find a partner. Bisexuality means that the individual has same-sex attractions, or same-sex desires, and same-sex experiences, but may not want to settle down with a particular sex, while at the same time, finding themselves attracted to multiple genders.
The other answer that someone might give you is: “I’m bisexual, but I don’t necessarily identify as gay, lesbian, or straight. I just enjoy being bisexual. It’s a great way to include everyone.”
If you choose to stick with the belief that you should have to declare what bisexual means to you, or at least avoid using the word “gay”, “lesbian”, or “straight”, then you need to look at the definitions given above. If bisexuality means anything different to you than the other two answers, then you may want to consider exploring this new dimension of your sexuality.
Do you believe that everyone can choose their sexual orientation, or are you saying that bisexuality is a spectrum?
If you believe that everyone can be bisexual, you can find out how you fit into the category, through an online survey.
While bisexuality isn’t an orientation, many people still believe that it is. They have come to think of bisexuality as the experience of having same-sex attraction in addition to having opposite-sex attraction. Those who are bisexual are attracted to the same gender, and are also attracted to the opposite gender, but may also feel attracted to both sexes.
For those who do not identify as bisexual, you may be asking yourself; “I’m bisexual, but I have no interest in dating a guy or a girl. Am I gay, lesbian, or straight?” The answer is that you are bisexual, regardless of whether or not you are looking for a gay, lesbian, or straight relationship.
If you feel that your bisexuality has been misconstrued by the people around you, then you may want to consider taking the plunge and getting out there. You have the option of identifying as “gay”, “lesbian”, or “straight”.
You have the choice of living happily ever after in a happy, long-term, committed relationship.
Some may view bisexuality as “not real”just a phase” that one goes through, but the truth is that sex and sex only affect your psychological state of mind. You can even choose to have sex with both men and women if you so choose. You will have to determine what “you” feel most comfortable with, and then keep your fingers crossed that there are no issues to deal with when you reach the point of deciding on a particular sex.